Thursday, May 31, 2012

death clothes

What do you do with the clothes you wore on the day someone you love dies?
Can you ever wear them again?
Do you wear them separately and never together, never in the same combination that you wore on the day of the death?
Do you give them away?
Do you keep them?
What happens if they tear?
Do you throw them away?
Can you throw them away?
What do you tell yourself?

 

6 comments:

sp said...

i kept mine. and i wear it once a week. and i think i might do that until it becomes ragged and shreddy. and then i will turn it into a pocha and continue to use it.

sp said...

but this is for reasons of practicality as well as sentiment. i was wearing my most favourite jeans. i am not going to throw those away.

that kurta though is among the rapidly dwindling store of things in my house that had actual contact with the person in question that i was quite fond of. so i do not think i will be throwing it away yet.

i kept a piece of cotton that was used to mop a cut that happened while the body was being cleaned in my purse for weeks before starting to feel like it was unsanitary as well as morbid. in my defense though it wasn't a lot of blood. just a tiny drop. and it was nice to have it for a while. (so i might not be the right person to comment on this)

fencingtypists said...

give them away. don't think, twice!

oof ya! said...

sp - i have preserved strands of my grandmothers hair.

fencingtypists - hello and welcome to my blog. have you tried to throw away death clothes? how was it?

fencingtypists said...

no. throwing them away is such a waste. giving them away is a feeling much subjective to your own neurons. "give them away" as in pass them along..so anyone someone needy. it could be a younger cousin, the church, your plumber's offspring, a beggar on the road. in this way, they'll come in use..they won't lose the utility value. value remains. a feeling much subjective to one's neurons.

oof ya! said...

loving the way you use neurons :) hmmmm. i am still struggling over what should become of the death clothes i have.