Wednesday, July 31, 2013

what i have learnt about adulthood

Most jobs are dull and uninteresting. So unless you are fortunate enough to be rolling in your family's wealth you will just have to suck it up.  

Smile, make small talk, be pleasant, call it friendship. It's your network. 

Read EVERYTHING before you sign it. Take the time out to read it. Knowledge is power. 

If you have dependents, do everything in your power to take care of your health. Your health is your wealth, it really is. 

Money can buy you independence. 

Be financially independent. Nothing beats the power money gives you to take your own decisions. 

If you don't own a house and cannot afford to pay the movers and packers, practice object detachment. Rent leases don't last forever and neither will your children's willingness to physically move every fucking thing you own into your next house. 

Things rarely go according to plan. The universe is filled with too many unaccounted for variables. Everything can change in an instant. But if you've financially planned for it, you'll survive the change. Most likely, you are not going to have the time to deal with your emotions. Just move on. Time changes everything. As does context. What troubles you today will not trouble you tomorrow.

Saturday, July 27, 2013


The very first time I met him he said, "I went for late marriage. My children are 5 years old." (He looked about 45. No, I did not ask him about either his children or his marital status. He told me himself, of his own accord.Within the first five minutes of our meeting.)

You would think the Indian Parliament was big enough for me to avoid running into this man forever after. But no. Everytime I go there, he magically shows up in my path. (Yes, my job sometimes involves entering the Parliament building. No, I'm not that powerful. Yet.)

One day when I ran into him he said,"If you need anything, just send the driver." (Again, I had not asked him for anything. He said this himself, of his own free will.)

On another day he said, "You should use your office computer for research." (Yes, this was a random statement. I have no idea why he said this to me. We ran into each other and he blurted this out. Immediately upon seeing me this is exactly what he said.)

Today he said, "You should go for higher studies. I will be so happy if you do a Phd."
And then he said, "If you need anything, I will send the driver to you."

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Thursday, July 25, 2013


It's hard to see people you grew up with visiting different cities, exploring the world, getting an education you cannot even afford to fill out the application forms for and building an international network of friends and potential work / business associates.

It's hard because you're still sitting in the same city you grew up in, it's littered with lecherous men, you're constantly watching your back, you live a boderline middle class poverty life where you spend your time and energy trying not to go bankrupt. Because you know what bankrupt can look like, you're living it anyway and you're scared. You want to get out of here but you can never leave because you cannot afford it.

Monday, July 01, 2013

train tales

My sister told us about a conversation she had with a co-passenger on a train.

He: Are you working or studying?

She: Neither

He: Oh, you must be a web designer.